Archive for January, 2011

Giving your gift to the world

Posted in inspiration on January 16, 2011 by amotings

Each of us has in us, something to give. But here is the question. When you transact in your world, how many times did you think that you are giving a gift to someone ?

Kite-flying
Ready to fly

What is your gift to the world ? A gift is an act where you give out of love and respect to the other, without expecting anything in return. It can be a touch over the shoulder, letting a car pass by before you or thanking someone for their help. The best gift is an act which the other does not even realize has come as a gift from you. Be the silent mover and giver and stay away from the emotions in you. Just do and shut-up – never talk about it, even when your ego wants to write a memoir of your petty or selfless deed.

The only reason for unhappiness is when we start giving our own life too much importance. Instead look for something to give. Do not think of the act of giving, but just give. Watch your thoughts  – do they make you feel good, are you doing it out of a sense of superiority, or are you just blessing the other in the act of giving ?

Once we perceive what it is like to give unreciprocated, anonymous gifts to people whom we are in contact with, it will start bringing fulfillment is all areas of our life – work, home, relationships. The attitude which we carry will begin to change.

Seth Godin, in his amazing book Linchpin, talks about this idea of giving gifts but in a different context – how to be indispensable at work ? Seth considers indispensable people as artists at work – who do not look at every day as a job to be done for the money earned. Instead, he says, artists are those people at work who refuse to do lousy work and be a cog in the wheel. They will be in relentless in their pursuit till they give a gift. It has nothing to do with income or job security. Artists at work are trying a way to change you and they want to give that as a gift.

 Seth has taken the spiritual reasoning of a fulfilled life of giving yourself to others to a different level. He has made us connect our work with a purpose – giving a gift to someone, which changes the other for the better. True, it might make us indispensable, but that is not the intention of an artist. His intention is to help make the other better.  

So, today onwards, instead of mulling over career and  focus on improving oneself, let me identify ways in which my actions will lead to larger change amongst the people in my life. Already, I have set my goals which reflect the opportunities which inspires the people to opt for change and bring about a change in me. My every transaction with people is a reminder of my work in giving them a gift. Share what I know, inspire other to achieve more than they think they can. Be there for my loved ones, listen. Support the lost one or the scared one to break out of their shell. Let me give my time in this life as a “gift” to others.

Photo Courtesy: Meanest Indian

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Family Outing to Dakshina Kannada district

Posted in Travel on January 9, 2011 by amotings

During the December holidays, we went for a trip to south coastal Karnataka. We visited Mangalore, Udipi, Karkala and Moodbidri. This was a trip which we drove across from Bangalore.

I feel that this part of Karnataka is much less densly populated. The people were helpful, the place was much clean. Some of the roads went via mountaneous regions and the drive was beautiful.

Beautiful scenic drive greeted us along the way

Most tourist spots we visited did not have many visitors. The beaches close to Mangalore were clean and we got to watch the sunset in its beauty.

A few thoughts during this trip.

  • If you want authentic South-Indian food, this is the place. (Better not opt for North-Indian cuisine).
  • People are very clean and have a good sense of hygiene.
  • Less densly populated, also saw that people were simpler and friendly.
  • A haven for educational enthusiasts, with so many colleges for various disciplines around this place.
  • There are many religious places of interests for all religions. From Jain temples to churches to Hindu temples.
  • Do not miss the ice-creams which Mangalore is famous for – we went to Pabbas on M.G. Road.
Sunset from Ullal Beach

Sunset from Ullal Beach, Mangalore

It is a perfect place to find a small house and live after retirement. The expenses will be much lesser than it is in the metro cities. The church and even the temples we visited was a memorable experience.

There are so many beautiful spots in our country which can be developed as a tourist destination. At every few kilometers there are historic treasures over thousand years old.

Robert Sutton, on what makes a great boss

Posted in people on January 6, 2011 by amotings

This was one of the most read articles at HBR blog in 2010. I admire Robert’s writings in his blog, as he often writes on how people become toxic at work.

I personally, do not agree with the usage of “boss“, as I have some preconceived notions, often to do with a condescending nature associated with the expression boss. I would prefer manager or a supervisor, but this article still holds good for all who work with people. Thanks Bob !

Full article and other top read posts at HBR are at  HBR blog.

By Robert Sutton, author of Good Boss, Bad Boss, ponders what makes some bosses great.

  1. I have a flawed and incomplete understanding of what it feels like to work for me.
  2. My success — and that of my people — depends largely on being the master of obvious and mundane things, not on magical, obscure, or breakthrough ideas or methods.
  3. Having ambitious and well-defined goals is important, but it is useless to think about them much. My job is to focus on the small wins that enable my people to make a little progress every day.
  4. One of the most important, and most difficult, parts of my job is to strike the delicate balance between being too assertive and not assertive enough.
  5. My job is to serve as a human shield, to protect my people from external intrusions, distractions, and idiocy of every stripe — and to avoid imposing my own idiocy on them as well.
  6. I strive to be confident enough to convince people that I am in charge, but humble enough to realize that I am often going to be wrong.
  7. I aim to fight as if I am right, and listen as if I am wrong — and to teach my people to do the same thing.
  8. One of the best tests of my leadership — and my organization — is “what happens after people make a mistake?”
  9. Innovation is crucial to every team and organization. So my job is to encourage my people to generate and test all kinds of new ideas. But it is also my job to help them kill off all the bad ideas we generate, and most of the good ideas, too.
  10. Bad is stronger than good. It is more important to eliminate the negative than to accentuate the positive.
  11. How I do things is as important as what I do.
  12. Because I wield power over others, I am at great risk of acting like an insensitive jerk — and not realizing it.

By Robert Sutton

I’m joining the postaweek challenge

Posted in Blogroll with tags on January 5, 2011 by amotings

It has been an unfulfilled desire to be able to write something weekly. I am taking up this challenge for 2011 and hope some of my posts do get read. If nothing, at least for my own satisfaction of being able to express my thoughts in words will be fulfilling.

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