Archive for October, 2011

Cricket and my son

Posted in Journey with tags , on October 30, 2011 by amotings

Finally, my son made some friends with some other good kids of his age and he is busy playing cricket for the most of his free time. Earlier, all these years, when he was growing up, one of our main concerns was why he does not have friends of  his age group around him. He was initiatlly shy, and we thought of just letting him take his time to get out of his shell, instead of artifically making him socialize. In retrospect, it was a great decision, and boy, sports makes it so much easier to break all barriers.  So here is the story of cricket and my son.

I used to be the one playing cricket with him before. He used to make me get up from the sofa and I used to bowl for him and also field, yes field, for hours under the sun. We used to play on the road right in front of our house.
He has so much energy, and I used to bowl to him just right, so that he can hit the long one over my head. And he can bowl real fast. I am so glad he is not the TV viewing, video-gaming sedantry style kid.
We used to use the back of our hatch back car(my reliable Ford Fusion) as the wicket keeper. Then we bought a nice bat, costing around Rs. 1000, and we lost quite a few tennis balls because of his shots into the unkept empty sites around our house.  We then bought wickets for him, which was his idea again when we played together. So now the back of my car is spared.
Then one day, we saw some kids playing cricket on an adjacent road and I asked him if he would like to play with them. To my surprise my son did not hesitate to say “yes”,  to play with children he does not know. Those kids gladly took him  in their wing and made friends within minutes.
I am so glad now that he is enjoying more with children of his age. I also realized that I get to spend even lesser time with him together.
It was fun while it was just the two of us with the dog watching. Now, it is good for him and I think more fun for him taking the wickets of his friends than his father’s. Howzz that !

Humor and Foolishness

Posted in inspiration with tags , , on October 12, 2011 by amotings

I dream of asking a room full of super-achievers, “Who here thinks they are foolish in what they do” ? All super achievers have to think high of themselves so they may not answer, and even if they do, it would still be in pretense.  I think we feel powerful about being smart and humble about being foolish. We often choose the former, because we are in an ego-centric world which laudes personal success.

It makes me smile to think of this  truth –  most of our lives (which is now mistaken as work-life for me), we spend trying to be our best and train and learn whatever there is.  So, we do everything to avoid being seen as stupid or foolish. And, we stop learning just for learning sake, but start acquiring knowledge to make us look smart. 

 Is my purpose behind acquiring knowledge to gain superiority ?

Imagine for a moment, if you could become free of this label of “staying foolish” also. Would you be more spontaneous in learning and be free ? Would that make you laugh and be happy ? Would you learn, finally ?

If we have to laugh and allow ourselves to be laughed at, won’t we achieve our true potential – maybe make it to the room of super-achievers and still raise our hands to the question of whether we were foolish. Freedom at last.

 Be the unassuming one, the nitwit, the simpleton, not judging but accepting.

Humour yourself, and raise your hand to learn something new because it connects with your purpose. Let us not do it because you are are avoiding looking foolish and therefore acquiring more knowledge.  The experience will make you more complete. The creative genius,  that is you, will finally reach your purpose.

Like the Bible says, “The meek shall inherit the earth”.

So, just “how” can we be patient and “why” should we be ?

Posted in Letters to my son with tags on October 4, 2011 by amotings

When should you be patient or show patience ? It  is when you want things happen your way because, at all other times you would call yourself as patient, wouldn’t you. I mean, at least you are not desperate for something to happen.

When you realize that you are getting impatient, “how” and “why” should you act,  patiently?

Let us first look at “why” patience is a virtue and is an advice with much gain.

Nature's patience shows her beauty

1. Anything done in an impulse does not come out right. Unless you are a truck with no feelings, you already would have got cues on this.
2. You act better with a calm and clear mind, rather than a restless or agitated mind.
3. Nature’s rhythm has to match with yours, and nature is pretty darn patient and seems to have time on her side.
4. When you let things happen with your “intent”, miracles happen.
5. You make an impression. Others will perceive and understand you better. Your character shines through even more – you will not know this, because if you do, it is not shining.
6. That, you did not send out negative energy when things do not happen your way and kept your chin up, makes the force in the universe sit up and notice. You created an imbance in the universe which she has to balance.
7. Infinite patience creates “immediate” opportunities. You will get what you really want and right for you when you least expect it.

Alright then, so you’d have to be nuts to throw away the gains you will receive because of patience. Now let us come to “how” do we show patience.

1. Breathe ! Yes, right now, just breathe in and if you feel like just breathe out( the latter was meant to make you smile as you read my post, during my bus journey to work). You need to shut up – and how else can you shut your mind, but by noticing the present.

2. Feel better ? When agitation comes, you switch on your deep breathing. You become more aware of your body, the moment which is NOW – and Lo! the mind numbs pretty quickly.

3. Say thanks! Be grateful. Shower thanks for all you have. They weren’t joking when they said, count you’d blessings.

4. Hope you haven’t  lost patience so far because I am still in my bus.

5. Be good. Do good to some stranger. Or a loved one or a colleague. You are too great a human being, so just be it now.

I think by now, you have just become and acted as a patient person. Just let things be.

Reached work.

That’s all folks! (All Disney cartoons end this way.)

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